I would have to say the real definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome. We have all read that a time or two in our lives and identify with and shake our heads in agreement and then just get on with our negative minds. Why is that? Why do we only see that as a literal thing and not so much as an emotional one?
We all need to break out of some sort of belief cycle within our minds. Maybe it is the fact that we are overweight, don’t exercise, can’t stick with a plan, we are late or disorganized….whatever. It is, for whatever reason, what we believe to be true about ourselves and just keep letting the circuit loop over and over and is a belief that we truly believe about ourselves. Even after you change yourself….or break out in some way you still hold on and eventually fall back into the vortex. I had the hardest time getting started because I would constantly believe the same things….I have always been heavy….I will always be heavy. I have never been able to stick to a diet, I will never stick to a diet. I have never been able to wear a tank top, my arms are too heavy….I will never wear a tank top. Not only did I continue to believe these lies and negative beliefs about myself, I raised them in a nice little garden in my head. I put fences up…I used fertilizer…it was a full time job in self sabotage. It was what I knew….it was what I was comfortable with. Then one day I started to get moving. I was not planning anything great….just moving. As it went on into the 3rd week I was hyper excited and began to give myself hyper encouragement to keep going. Then I started changing my diet and thought WOW! As it turns out…I learned I will never be a stick thin woman but I am not destined to be HEAVY. I will never be a competitive athlete but I certainly can move my body enough to be healthy. Getting my mind set on the fact that I was smaller took great effort. I had to wear tank tops in the house only….look in the mirror and tell myself over and over and over again that I looked good. I looked acceptable. I had to purge the negative poison I put in my brain….I had to relearn body image….I had to inject hyper thoughts just to erase the old ones. I had to end the constant battle between my conscious and subconscious mind. But I got there. I might not have arms like Jillian Michaels….but you know what? I like mine. I worked for mine. I moved them hard and strong in class. I held those toning sticks up when I wanted to put them down. I did that. I am proud of that.
You can do it. You can do anything if you just believe the truth within yourself and forget what was injected into you by others from your past. Truth is we all have a negative bias….we tend to believe that the negative experiences we have had were way worse than they really were. It is imperative that you turn all your attention to what you are doing right and let go of past beliefs. Only then, can you move forward. Yeah…maybe you can’t do a certain diet, maybe you can’t dance and have two left feet (SO WHAT), maybe you have NEVER stuck to a program for longer than a week. You CAN get through TODAY. You can change what you do TODAY….then at the end of the day….instead of….YEAH, BUT IT IS ONLY ONE DAY….IT WAS ONLY ONE MEAL….I CAN’T KEEP THAT UP…..goodness….give yourself a stinking break! INSTEAD….WOOOHOOO….I WAS AWESOME TODAY….I DID THAT WHOLE TUESDAY CLASS….I MADE IT THE WHOLE DAY WITHOUT CHOCOLATE….I AM A ROCK STAR!!!
Go ahead, make my day…..TRY IT!
Be Good to Yourself!
Kelly